There is nothing as devastating as watching your
children fail. Failure is natural, but not when you try and try and try
again. I remember when my son, Josiah failed to learn to read. He
just couldn't remember the letters. In year 2 his teacher said he
wriggled on the mat and couldn't sit still. Josiah who was placid and
happy, got very angry.
It was at that point we got help and a diagnosis.
He would have been around 8 years old? The school had tried
everything, but nothing had worked. I mean everything that was available
like reading recovery, a teacher aide 1-1 teaching alphabet sounds and
identification, rainbow reading and a Specialist literacy teacher (3 times a
week for 1 hour each time). Josiah could do all the tricks, he could
re-run, he use picture clues, he could even work out missing words from
context, but he couldn't read small words consistently and he couldn't read
without help. Basically, he couldn't hear sounds and relate them to
letters. We got Josiah labelled at Child and Adolesent Mental Health by a
Phychiatrist. We were very lucky. We got some counseling for him. We also paid for him to have the
special assessment with a developmental eye specialist. Also we paid for
another private assessment confirming the first.
A wonderful teacher aide left the primary school
and trained in the Davis Programme. It was this programme with this
teacher that made the difference. It was here that in two weeks, he
learnt his alphabet letters and sounds. That
in it self is astonishing. We had the
job of continuing the process in helping Josiah learn the 220 or so trigger
words that. It is a big job. Each word takes 30-40 minutes. We paid for a teacher aide to do this once a
day for a while. Even with all this we
didn’t finish. However, it was enough to
make a difference.
The biggest difference from the Davis Programme was
that Josiah was at peace with himself.
He identified as being dyslexic and became his old self. He accepted who he was and how he was. He
also learnt some tools which he still uses and helps him to focus. Simple but profound.
Over the next few years, Josiah scored a PAT
stanine 9 twice in listening comprehension.
We celebrated as we saw how he had compensated and had become an amazing
listener. I will never forget his Year 5
and 6 teacher the most amazing teacher who took him and treated him as an intelligent
and able student. She allowed him to sit
in lessons with her highest reading group and highest maths group. She affirmed him.
Now Josiah is in Year 11. NCEA 1 looms.
Josiah is not worried one bit.
His school has applied for compensations, without a paid diagnosis,
purely on assessment information and observations. Sensible, logical stuff, this is how it
should be. We heard this week that he
has been accepted no questions. Common
sense. Wonderful. He can use a reader/writer or computer. He can have a room by himself for exams. The playing field has been made level.
The thing about Josiah is that he believes he can
do anything. He believes he is a
learner. He knows he is successful. He doesn’t doubt his ability or his
skills. He knows ways around not being
able to read and write. Learning for him
isn’t defined by paper and pencil but by thinking, remembering, creating.
As a mum, my heart sings. I remember when he was a little boy and the
most important thing was to make sure he loved learning. We talked to him lots. We took him on trips. We read to him – a lot. He listened to stories on tape, then CD and
then a kindle. I never forced him to
hold a pencil, I never made him practice senseless letters over and over
again. I never made him read over and
over again. He never had to do
homework. Unless of course he wanted
to. I protected his personhood. Even when he
wanted to stop the Davis Programme learning we listened. Forcing was not an option. What this journey has shown me is that a
passion for learning and listening to the person, working for them and not
against their will, is fundamental to success. Trusting my son to know what to
do and when has been important.
Reading and writing may be helpful to learning, but
it is not essential.
Sure I am under no doubt that the next few years
will be hard work, but isn’t it like that for all learners? New learning is always hard fought for.